The song, Eleanor Rigby, by The Beatles, is probably one of my all time favorite Beatles songs. Why? Because it’s about lonely people. I think it’s safe to say there are a lot of very lonely people in this world and that is indeed tragic. Why? Because last I checked, there were over seven and a half billion of us living here on this earth, and many of us will go about our day without saying or receiving a simple hello, from another human being, and I find that extremely sad.
I am a very social creature, and to be honest with you, I’ve always been sort of a lonely social creature, if that makes any sense. As much as I’d like to talk to people and interact in a great conversation, there were many times I just couldn’t. I simply felt uncomfortable speaking to complete strangers or making friends. It was safer just to remain quiet and listen to others interact, not in some strange creeper way, but simply, a sad way.
Not long ago I was on the train heading into center city Philadelphia when I saw a young man board the train with a big box of donuts, and as he walked down the center aisle, he offered anyone who looked his way, a donut. He simply said “I bought too many. I’ll never eat them all. Would you like donut?”
A first you’d say to yourself, “Dude, You bought too many of them?” but then you’d have to quickly understand that maybe there was an underlying reason why he bought too many, maybe he simply was trying to socially interact with people and be kind to others and in return, I’m thinking, he was just looking for a few seconds of friendship with complete strangers.
I felt bad for him. Maybe he really did go in there hungry as heck and said, ‘Yeah, give me that one, and that one, and that one,” and suddenly, bam, dude has twelve donuts in a box that he then realizes he can’t eat. Or…maybe he said to himself “I’m going to buy donuts today and give them out to people on the train.” Why? Maybe that was just his way to be kind to others, to see them smile, and to feel good about that afterwards.
Whatever the reason, thing is, this isn’t the first time I’ve seen him do this. He didn’t accidentally buy a dozen donuts twice. I’m thinking he just wants to do nice things for people and briefly say hello. Of course there is always the possibility he really can’t conceive the fact that he’s buying too many donuts at once, but I don’t think so.
So what’s wrong with that? Nothing at all. I go out of my way all of the time to talk to people. I think I’ve actually freaked a few people out by reaching out to them and talking to them if they share in something I like to talk about. (If I did and this was you…sorry about that), I just really like to communicate with just about anyone.
I think people are fascinating. Each one of us has our own unique story to tell. Each one of us has a purpose, although many of us have no idea what that purpose is and we may search an entire lifetime to search for and finally find it, if at all.
I’ve been on that journey my entire life, to find my purpose. I recently watched for the who knows how many times, the movie, The Jerk. The main character, Nevin, played by Steve Martin, finally , Finds his Purpose in life, which is kind of hilarious that what he finds he actually thinks is his purpose, but anyways, he finds his purpose, and I was happy for him that bam, theres someone that found there purpose.
Have you ever wondered what your purpose is? I think about it all of the time. My life has been a crazy roller-coaster of ups and downs, I never in a million years thought I’d be sitting here at this place in my life. To tell you the truth, I wasn’t certain exactly where I’d of been, but I can pretty much tell you that this extremely strong gravitational pull deep within me to communicate with others, well, that’s always been there, just as strong as ever, which tells me, my purpose is what I am doing right now, and what is that exactly?
My purpose is just being me: Someone who really likes communicating with others, sharing positive stories and subjects with people willing to listen and then hopefully share that positivity with others, and in some strange way, by doing this, maybe, just maybe, this reaches the ears and eyes of someone who really needs to hear this today, and maybe that only happens by you sharing it as well.
I can’t explain this desire to communicate with you, to you. It is like a hunger within. I just need to do this. To me, to think there is someone out there lonely who thinks they have no purpose in life, well, that just inspires me to reach out, to write this, to speak the next podcast with this identical message and say hello to you, and to let you know, you are important, you are special, you do have a purpose.
Now you may be asking yourself, “How the heck does he know if I’m important, have a purpose, or I’m special?”
First of all, you are here, you have read or heard this message, and there is a reason for that. I don’t think these things just happen randomly. I also believe that each one of us plays a vital and significant role in the puzzle of life, at this specific time, we fit in where we’re supposed to be, in this specific place and just maybe, possibly, in some strange magnificent way, we smile, hold the door, say hello, to someone who needs that at that specific time, and it truly matters greatly to them, and we’ll never know that brief random act of kindness we didn’t think twice of doing, actually made a significant impact in someones life that we’ll never know about.
Maybe. But how will ever know?
There is absolutely way too much hatred and disrespect for each other out there currently in this world, and I’m sorry, but I absolutely refuse to be any part of that. There has to be a better way, and I truly believe it starts with respect and kindness for each other, sometimes even when it’s not being reciprocated back to us.
So today when I awoke, I felt compelled to write this and say hello to you, whomever and wherever you may be on this earth. You are here for a reason, and that reason may simply to be yourself, to be whom you are, an while doing so, quite possibly your smile, your kind words or gesture, will make someone else’s day and it’ll spread forward.
So…a big hello to you wherever you are, whomever you are. I hope you are having a great day and if you are, spread the kindness to others in the hopes they can have a great as well.
And if you are not having a great day, know that we are thinking about you also, and wishing you the best that things get better quickly.
If you like this message, please copy the link and share it to absolutely everybody in your life, and then ask them to forward it as well. I’m thinking some positivity in this world could only make it a better place.
Thank you very much for listening, and hey, our e-mail here is firstname.lastname@example.org Say hello, tell us where you are from, and hopefully we can say a personal hello right back to you on the next episode of Finding Subjects
Thank you once again. Please share and get the word out. Positivity matters!
PS: Did you ever wonder why Father McKenzie and Elenore Rigby just didn’t hang out together? Just saying.
Have a great day!